Things different about California

They don’t really pass on the right shoulder here, although it’s not unheard of. But they love the U turn. They even have signs up for it at wider intersections. But here there’s an island down the middle of most roads, blvds, prkwys, etc…. If I did that in AR, someone would probably think, “The gall…” Here, the roads are laid out more like a grid, more like Austin was. CT was full of cow trials; the old paths the cows and wagons used, someone eventually paved them. It was pretty, but time consuming. Here, the furthest we go is 20 minutes to church or Costco.

Everything feels close here. In CT, although the towns are close and populated, this CA town has not kept the trees that CT has. CT feels wild. I like that in my memory. When I was there I did not particularly like living in the woods. But now it brings up a Washington Irving ghost story kind of memory.

There is a transitory feeling here that I never felt in AR, TX, or CT. especially AR. Here, you meet as many transplants as you meet natives. People move in and move out. For all the reputation the Northeast has built up for not being as friendly as the South, once made, the friendships can be counted on, and also like the South, people stick around. CA is friendly, but the friendships do not seem as binding. (I’ve only been here since November, so all opinions are subject to change.) Since leaving Harding University, I’ve counted it a blessing that I walked away with two lasting friendships, two girls I keep up with, girls I call, girls who call me back. It doesn’t sound like much, but I can tell now that two is good.

Now I make friends standing outside of the kindergarten room where we wait for our 5 year olds, then a trip to the park or fast food playground. We have also discovered the library since moving here. A friend tells me you will always meet good people at the library. And there’s a library wherever you go. We are going about 3 times a month.